Relationships

So here we can talk about our relationships; what you look for in the opposite sex, what you hate about the opposite sex, bad experiences/relationships, good experiences/relationships, etc.

the most important thing to me is honesty! i LOATH lies, cannot stand anyone who lies, specially in my face. I also like someone who works hard, who is not lazy, and who wants to strive in life. and well..... that is what my boyfriend is! hahahaha we have been together for 3 years and he is definitely the person I want to spend my life with. he has his bad things (strong temper) but i have learned to deal with it. no one is perfect you know? but other than that, he is amazing. honestly the love of my life <33

I feel so happy for you! \o/

You know, I guess we feel the same his_lobster, my girlfriend has also a strong temper and after almost 5 years we've been together, I've learned to deal with it as I'm sure she has learned to deal with my faults as well. I think relationships are always hard, not that I have been in many, but I gues it's just the way it is. The bottom line is that we need to respect the other person, her faults, quirky things, addictions and ideals. If they are similar to yours, great, but that is not so often to happen. I'm pretty sure that for me the most important thing is to love yoursefl first and be yourself all the time. Never change who you are, and I'm not talking about silly things you can actually change if it's necessary and sometimes it is, but never change your essence, your beliefs and character. If you can do that, you'll probably have a more fullfilling relationship with anyone. This is just my opinion guys, based on my personal experience, k? ;)

ugh so true!!! bravo!!

sometimes I feel as if things are my fault and want to change so several things won't happen; but then i think, that is how I am, and I can't change it you know? I always say that if the other person loves you for real, you don't have to change anything at all; they should just accept you, as long as it's not life-threatening of course! because there are relationships unfortunately that center on abuse and that is NEVER acceptable!

Humm let's see... it's hard for me to talk about relationships. I've only been in two serious and some other that lasted like, a month .-.
All that I can say is it will only work out, if the person you're dating loves you as much as you love her, and in the same way. Because, you can trust me, it hurts really bad when that doesn't happen...
Well, my relationship is so damn complicated. I know he loves me and I love him too. But we're too different from each other. Our way to show our feelings, are a lot different. Now, we're just trying to change this, to make this work. Like Andy said, we don't have to change our personality or something like that for no one, but some silly stuff are very necessary. By far, we're doing well xD I don't think I'm going to be forever with him haha but i'm enjoying the time we're together, and if it's meant to be, it will be :)

his_lobster wrote:

ugh so true!!! bravo!!

sometimes I feel as if things are my fault and want to change so several things won't happen; but then i think, that is how I am, and I can't change it you know? I always say that if the other person loves you for real, you don't have to change anything at all; they should just accept you, as long as it's not life-threatening of course! because there are relationships unfortunately that center on abuse and that is NEVER acceptable!

Couldn't agree more. And when in a relationship, people should be themselves, always. Of course we like to impress the other person and that's good, but our true colors always end up showing. Which is also good. A balance is the best :)

I'm single, so I can't say too much here, haha.

Aww you guys your relationsships sound adorable!!

I'm kind of not a good girlfriend so I guess I need a guy who can deal with that. I have some trust issues and such and they have really messed it up for me in the past. I'm working on it, though. I have a new boyfriend and everything is going really well.

Honesty is very important for me too, and that you have fun togheter. If you can't make each other laugh then I hardly think it's worth it.

Ikea-acommonswedishname wrote:

If you can't make each other laugh then I hardly think it's worth it.

And honestly, sometimes that's all that matters.

My boyfriend and I just had our 4 year anniversary last week :) I don't have a lot of time to make a long comment lol so I'll just quickly say that communication, trust, laughter, having some shared interests, having time apart from each other, and enjoying each others company are VERY important

Congratulations for the 4 years :)

Wow 4 years! Nowadays to be be with someone who wants to be commited to you for 4 years is pretty rare! Congratulations for your happiness dear!

Aww, thank you guys! :')

Well, my girlfriend is still in Africa and coming back the start of February... this past month showed me how much I really love her and how hard is to be apart. I mean, she already lives in another city (because of the university) and we stay apart for most of the week, but this whole month was really hard without her. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you don't really realize how much one person means to you untill you have to be apart from them...

Sorry, just venting =)

Normally is like that... we miss poeple the most when they are far from us... and we take many things for granted sometimes.

I know this conversation is waaay old but I don't care haha :)

I totally agree. As some of you may remember, my boyfriend is in the Army and he recently got a job in another city, which is 2 hours away. He will be there for a few months, and can only come on weekends IF he can, then next year will be going to Afghanistan. Of course I know I love him, and of course I know he loves me, but all of this time apart has thought us just how much we love and care for each other.

I guess sometimes it is good to be apart for some time because even though it hurts, it teaches you and shows you just how much love there is or there isn't; it is a lesson. Relationships need work and without trials and tests you will never be encouraged or pushed to make it better, no matter how great it may already be.

And I agree with you Alex, sometimes things are taken for granted if they are too available.

:)

I was in a long distance relationship for... Almost 5 years. I ended it last week, actually. I don't regret it and it was awesome when we were together.
But it just wasn't right anymore. I learned a lot with him and he said to me that he learned a lot with me too (which I know is true because he was a terrible boyfriend at the beggining, really, really terrible).

We still talk a little, but it's weird for me because last time he came talking to me he was a bit drunk and told me that he didn't give up on me yet and that he knew he hurted me badly in our relationship but that he wants to prove me that he changed and stuff... Then he promised me he wouldn't talk about it anymore until the time comes (I have no idea what he was talking about Hahah).

I said nothing because well... There's nothing to say, really. We were together for almost 5 years and those things that he did to hurt me was like... 2 and a hald to 3 years ago. :S Whatever he wants to prove me, he could have. But oh well... I don't keep hard feelings, I really am greatful for everything I've learned with that relationship and will keep the good memories at heart.

I'm sorry about that :/ But as long as you're happy with yourself then it's alright! The important thing is to be happy with yourself. I have been learning that little by little because I often forget about myself and think only of others, which is not healthy at all.

I believe that everything happens for a reason and better things will come after. Being in a relationship for so long and then ending it must feel horrible, but if it was for the best just focus on the bright future that is ahead of you. :)

I agree! If you're happy, that's what matters. Relationships are hard anyway and when we make a decision and feel secure about it, that's right :)

I actually felt awesome after the break up. Hahaha
It's so good not to worry anymore... Because (because of those "mistakes" of him) I was almost ALWAYS worried. :S Just so you know, I was afraid to look at his facebook because I knew that maybe he could have been hiting on some other girl or something. ._.

It wasn't healthy at all.

Yeah that is not healthy at all! Now you can relax and enjoy life :)

I'm sorry for you Adriane, but if it was hurting that much, it wasn't really worth it to carry it on! As long as you are happy, I'm happy for you too!

I guess the key for a happy relationship is trust and respect for each other, the moment those two things no longer exist, there's no reason why you should continue with it. Love is made of those things (guys this is just my opinion, I'm not at all an expert in the subject hehehe)

Haha none of us are experts but that sounds perfect! ;)

Rachel Karen wrote:

I actually felt awesome after the break up. Hahaha
It's so good not to worry anymore... Because (because of those "mistakes" of him) I was almost ALWAYS worried. :S Just so you know, I was afraid to look at his facebook because I knew that maybe he could have been hiting on some other girl or something. ._.

It wasn't healthy at all.

I HATE it when men disrespect women like that honestly. And when you love someone, they can keep screwing up things and making a fool out of you and you just sit there (it happened to me many times - I hate it); but I'm glad to hear you're happy. And you're super young, so... :)

I'm really bad at relationships tbh, and I'm a Sagittarius so I don't stick around much. I reckon this will change when I get older (hopefully!) I don't like it when people make a fool out of me and I'm way too proud for my own good but if someone's worth it... everyone can change :)

Everyone CAN change ;)

I have been learning a lot about myself in my relationship and have changed, but the better AND worse as well if that makes sense hahahahahahaha

No, I totally get it. It's amazing how people can grow with someone, you just need to find a person who will challenge you mentally and emotionally. You people are lucky to have something like that! :)